Tension

I was born in a village, vakakkad,near pala.During my primary school days the village has no electricity nor any bus service.Only mud road,two kilo meters walk to the bus stop.From 5th standard onwards i used to walk two kilo meters in the morning to school ,two each during noon time to take lunch and the return after the class ,total 8 kilo meters!Still life was such intense,joyful&complete in every sense.No hesitation,guests were treated sumptuously,no dearth for water in bath rooms,no hue&cry over washing and ironing clothes,(iron box charcoal equipped,energy saver&green earth!)The very air is not familiar with words like tension,stress,energy,synergy,best,worst etc.idiotic words!No best at that time,because we do not compare.Life in its totality with all purity.Nature gives you rain,wind &heat in time incorruptibly.
                          The other day a power cut happened, half an hour. It appeared like the world was going to end.I was wondering what would happen to us if a power failure happens for a week! We are successful in creating  more   comfort&convenience in this world&our standard of life increased ,no doubt.Our degree of physical pleasure also come up.We become more modern,sophisticated ,technically perfect.For a moment we think we control the life itself.Yes, modern man changed the destiny of mankind a lot.Inventions and discoveries in almost all fields of activities,though costing heavily to the planet earth.
                                        It appears strange that in spite of all these  the graph of tension rises day by day in our life.Human beings are tantalized by fear of future or fear of tomorrow.We wake up with fear,because we are filled with thoughts of insecurity.We do not trust anybody,we are too much logical.Anything our mind receives only after judging and analyzing thoroughly.We are not secure inside,as a result we are in search of security outside.We make all kinds of protective measures around us thinking that we are secure to that extent.A phone rings!We are tensed.Who is calling, ?what is the message?We forget that security is a feeling happening inside&and the more we try to secure us by correcting outside the more we are away from inside.If you are away from the work place how can you improve the situation there?
         Now modern management experts say tension is inevitable. Accept tension &worry& we pass those stress which we get from higher authorities,they say.If everything goes smooth & you are happy,they will not allow you  to  be happy.They say tomorrow things will change& start  worrying now! Any happiness is complacence for them.And any complacency is laziness for them.They misinterpret that only if you are tensed you will work.They show urgency&impatience in their body language.And by believing so, they also become hyper tensed.Now in meetings the routine question is"Any body wants tea with sugar?(not without sugar).Sweet thirties!
        Human beings are always thinking about their future.What will happen& what can happen?Two main thoughts.What will happen is the anxiety part &what can happen is our expectation about future.Worrying&dreaming.The strange part about thoughts is that it is completely unconnected.For example within a given 30 minutes of time you may have more than 100 thoughts which are not interconnected.Yes! Your thoughts are not yours!Only thing is that, it is happening inside you .The steering of your vehicle is not in your hands.Still you are getting caught  with your thoughts which fools you constantly...
      What is tension?it is a thought about the past,mostly about a bad thing happened  in the past or thought about your future .Both these thoughts you carry in the present is called tension.For eg:You have an assignment to do in the next week,you always think about it&fear about its successful completion.Actually the success of the task is no way connected to your unwanted thinking about it continuously.If at all the task fails you have to be tensed then only.Why you drag that tension?
               Thoughts are like uninvited visitors to our house.Suppose such visitors come in large numbers,can we able to feed them?Even our own privacy will be hindered.Just as our visitors have many purposes,our thoughts accompany many emotions too.We pay our full attention to these thoughts because we think we own it.Have you noticed ever that, some days you wake up in low mood or jittery for no reason at all.Just a bad thought hits you!Thats why the tension.You are a victim of your thoughts!Any thing which you do not have control is not yours.Your thoughts are not yours& the resultant emotions are also not yours!
Disrespect your thoughts,deliberately....You can see the effect of unwanted thoughts slowly dwindles in you.Your inner chattering gets reduced....You r getting free from tension...you live in the present!
 A work out: Just write in a paper any tensed thoughts happening during an hour.Read this paper after two days.You yourself will realize the fallacy of of such thoughts&you become cautious handling with your thoughts.

part 2

When u lov,you see your lover as God.His words,his presence,his smile etc energizes you.you feel you are in heaven!Your eyes see only beautiful things.your birth becomes meaningful.your existence is gifted.your nights are full of dreams!your attention is focused towards the lover.you are always thinking about him.And that is the first advantage of love.you are getting rid of other thoughts.its like a worship.A great chance for lovers to experience oneness.but lovers do not use this..they misunderstand love as something which you get from the other..no.love is the search of your mind to get good from the other.initially you are satisfied with the receipt of goodness from the other,but,your mind is searching goodness outside also.it is searching for perfection.slowly your mind is bored of the goodness of your lover and it misunderstands that he is not loving you.you lose the oneness.you complaint hat your lover does not love you.
use love as a great opportunity to center your mind by dropping your lover's physical form at least for some days,.how?you loved his good,not him.if you drop his form your mind becomes still and you realize true love. you are not the search engine for love,but you are true love.you do not total the receipts of love.you will not be hurt if your lover does not return the love back because you realize love is not a give&take or exchange .its a blessed situation in which you are in!will you search ac rooms if you are in ooty?no.you realize you are pure love!

part 1

Of Love&Friendship....Victor Writes....
love is the sweetest emotion of inclusiveness.A lover tries to include the other one for his emotional fulfillment.He wants the other person with him for completeness..And you lov...you part with..You lov.. you part with..Why?Because you loved his good.His/Her beauty..loving nature..intelligence...other qualities.You can not end your search even after you become a lover.Your mind again & again search for more beauties and more goodness and more love.Its like you include & part with..No one can include the other continously and completely.(Because you are not including the other but his good things only).Your mind needs more perfection..you are in search.Love is only the vehicle not destination.The yearning for lov more &more is nothing but your search for the destination .We misunderstand it as the destination..We enter the vehicle but alight in a stop which is not the destination.The destination is pure oneness with the existence which you cant part with..because once you reach there you are in union..absolutely...you can not search further..because you have included the whole inside you..then why search outside? A linen can have whiteness upto the whiteness of its yarn only...Then the lov starts in you...suddenly...you touch the soul of love...Eternal love..

compassion

The word compassion means showing kindness to the poor people,giving
food and clothes to them and helping them.A person close to you is in need of money.Urgently we people coming forward to help that person is another form of compassion.A visit to a patient is also an act of kindness.All the charitable institutions show and practice this very idea.Some charitable organizations grow faster than anything because people believe that any act of kindness will fetch them well being.
I think what is described above is only the minimum form of compassion .Because a poor person may come up financially within a short time,if he wants.Even ailments can be cured with proper treatment.Again and again social service organizations project poverty and diseases-the main curses of the present world. I fear if both of these are eradicated many a ones becomes jobless!
Showing kindness to the words and acts of your fellow being is real compassion .Because, our mind reacts to outside happenings continuously.If a person talks to you angrily the mechanism in you takes the angry part inside you to react with him.And a war starts! World war!!But if you can realize that the person who appears in front of you is essentially you yourself and his emotional part is excited a little bit, you can contain your mind from taking the same weapon.Realizing your well handling the situation, his very inner mind will beg a pardon for his own thoughtless acts ,even though he may not say it openly.Mind is a strange gamer. Sometimes it makes you turbulent for a reason,sometimes the same reason, it does not react to!If we analyze a little deeper, we see that we are the victims of our minds' play!Mind fools us always!Mind is intelligent, it rules you..takes you away outside and throw you in difficult situations..Then it is your duty to come back to normalcy..once you came back you can see that what had happened was only ten per cent reality and 90 per cent unwanted emotional projections.
Your mind is made up of all the mass of conditioned ideas which you gathered right from your childhood.So you fight for those stored ideas,beliefs etc.Ideas are ever changing but you cant adjust to that and you try to oust those which will confront with your stored ones.That's why generation gap occurs in its dangerous form.Life is manifesting in forms so differently.You be a spectator reflecting the enormous diversity happening around you, not reacting at all.Then you can experience the beauty of life!

Have positive thoughts!!!!!!!!

The greatest jargon 21st century has!Have positive thoughts!Change negative into positive!In the morning,go in front of the mirror and say loudly "I am positive".Then do your business...you will flourish!
Positivity is another joke.It is created by a bunch of trainers/motivators(they call themselves so) who want others to do business.If these people know all about business, shouldn't they start one? No..They don't want to face reality(They call even the word reality as negativity).It is easy to push others.A person who pushes others never comes in front..because he pushes from behind!!he!he!
Human mind is always after satisfying its own logic.These people know the trick,they satisfy your logic with their magical words and jugglery.
Let me ask a simple question? If a harthal is declared won't all people rejoice? Kids, even want holidays declared on the death of leaders.If the salary of these motivators is delayed for 15 days, will they adjust"positively"?Do these guys know how to wash their own clothes?They use spoon and forks to eat, may be to avoid washing their hands too!If you touch the food you eat with your right hand, it becomes energized immediately.It is so dear to you, so you intake it.
Any positive idea takes you away from reality.Human beings differ very much as to their intellect,habits,and physical strength.Realizing ones own strength helps you.With regard to inner energies all are same,though most of us are not aware of it.Knowing one's own innate nature and accepting the reality bring you success.
Most of the successful business people started business with zero capital or some borrowed capital.They see what is in front of them,started humbly,without advocating any of the theories.They practice untiring work habits,patience,and take risks in their shoulder.They don't calculate how to face obstacles,but simply face it.They may fail but that experience adds to their awareness.
Positivity brings in rules, dos and don'ts and standards.You think you are something.You have to carry the luggage of your own projected ego.You are not down to earth.Go to some villages ,we see how practical they are in their actions!They need only five minutes to clear any obstacles happening on road due to wind,rain etc.Helping hands!In highways, even the carcass of a dog will be pasted to earth by vehicle wheels.Down to earth!
Trainers are like doctors.They inject medicines of motivation .Its impact may be sudden,but not lasting.You cant afford to take sleeping pills every night to sleep!
Again ,somehow,you become a celebrity in business field.These analysts attribute upon you ,all the business adjectives in their dictionary.The successful man smiles,because he knows, after a certain period of watchfulness the nature takes its role..giving you profusely..beyond logic..success comes like a happening...denying all business principles.You become a witness of happenings..then...due to this tremendous awareness you become ready to sacrifice even the basic principles of business and look at the people of this planet earth with compassion.Bill gates gives his major share of assets to the poor...Warren buffet shares his money...Buddha smiles....Christ resurrects... Sankara born...!!!!

F.A.Q s

Thomas complains:Life has become boring for me,i am pushing my days.Any comments?
First,why we get bored?If you talk to your good friend over phone,say,for half an hour, you feel, time has passed without you two noticing it, because of the conversation.Or if we go for a a good movie, three hours will appear like three minutes..Kids usually say their summer vacation goes fast but no ending for the month of june!If you are happy ,your mind is fulfilled,no room for unnecessary thoughts and you will not feel the presence of time.And if we are fully engaged with some works we become unmindful of the time.We become in tune with the happening of life process and not too much strained by time alerts.In the process of sleep time factor does not come.In cinemas, we see the clock begins ticking only after the person gets out of sleep thus giving us the message that time has no importance if you have no thoughts...In our college days, we check the time very often if the subject is dull..And when we hear the bell , we realise ,an hour has gone, if the class is interesting..Unwanted thoughts about ourselves is the cause of boredom .You doubting thomas!!!!!

Monday musings

Happiness
The happening of a long cherished wish or the accomplishment of a great work or a blessing are the common reasons for happiness.All of us want happiness in our life actually,we are striving each moment in search of happiness.That's why human beings always try to improve in all activities of life.We are in search of those moments.People try to achieve more to become more happy.If our achievements show a negative trend,we may feel stress and embarrassment and the worst thing is that we cannot take the results for granted.In adverse situations, irritation will be the result.People,especially doing business are seen stressed most often.Modern managerial behavior adds to the dilemma.

What is happening when we are happy?Our mind becomes filled with joy and for us the world appears to be beautiful and our birth,a gift.We become ready to forgive our enemies also.On close observation,we can find out that mind is the sole producer of happiness.But,we believe that mind needs reasons to make itself happy.Actually,whether there is reason or no reason,our mind is an untapped reservoir of happiness.If mind can produce happiness by itself,why are we adding reasons for it?For example,in the past people used to search for water in ponds and rivers.Later they discovered the presence of water under their very feet,dug wells to bring it out and made it supplied 24 hours using tanks and pipe system.Likewise,our mind is filled with overwhelming happiness.Unaware of this reserve,we are in our search outside for sources of happiness which are of just bubble-like certainties.So it would be more reliable if ,in us,happiness originates without any particular reason.For this we ought to fix our inside in such a way that it remains untouched by adverse happenings outside us.